Positive Psychology
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ʕ ´ᴥ｀ ʔ ♥: Qualities of a Winning Personality 1. Exhibit integrity – A person is said to have integrity if what they say and what they do are rooted in the same set of core values.
2. Don’t speak badly of others – If you speak badly about others to a friend, the chances are you’ll also speak badly about them. Hence, they are likely to be hesitant in what they share with you.
3. Be an optimist – This doesn’t mean burying your head in the sand. It means choosing not to dwell on the negatives, and actively looking for the positives.
4. Make the effort to be helpful – Life is so much sweeter if you’re thoughtful and kind – and we rarely forget someone who’s caring and warm.
5. Set some goals and have some ambition - This is an extremely contagious quality. Not only will you achieve higher goals for yourself, you’ll give hope to others, and inspire them to try.
6. Seek to be compassionate and understanding – All of us face battles and experience hard times. Empathising with others when life is tough helps to ease their burden and renew their inner spark.
7. Believe in, love and respect yourself - If you don’t accept, respect and love yourself, then you’ll send out vibes that you’re inadequate. However, it you love, believe in and treat yourself well then it’s likely that others will treat you that way, too.
8. Persist until you succeed – Although ambition is important, it is not enough. You have to persevere if you’re going to succeed. So when you stumble or fall down just get up and start again. Then keep on going till you finally succeed.
9. Be open minded and willing to learn - If you’re closed in your thinking and set in your ways then you’ll never discover a different, better way .. and you’ll close yourself off to other possibilities.
10. Take responsibility for your life - Blaming others for your problems, or acting like a victim won’t help you to move forwards, and have the life you want. Take control of your destiny. Success is up to you.
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What is Meaning?
In general, Psychologists have agreed upon four areas that we require to have meaning in our lives. If all four of these needs are not met, then life will not seem meaningful.The four areas in which we find meaning include:
- Life Work/Achievement: be the best amongst a group of people
- Relationships/Intimacy: show care and acceptance for others, and help friends/family
- Religiousness/Spirituality: feel in tune with a higher power, and have a relationship with your decided beliefs
- Service/Self-Transcendence: act as a positive role model for others, and feel useful to society
Something that should be noted when looking upon these though is that Achievement actually predicts LOWER subjective well-being and greater negative affect (when alone). Intimacy, Spirituality, and Service all predict great subjective well-being, as well as increased satisfaction in marriage, greater positive affect, and higher life satisfaction.
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If you ever doubt your own beautiful, yourself, or how others see you, watch this video. Even if you just know somebody that doesn’t know how beautiful they are, watch this, then send to them.
Read the article that I have linked as well.
I won’t give a description of what this video involves, just watch it.
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Adventure Time inspirational quotes — in respective characters’ color palettes
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Neurolove.me: Qualities of an Attractive Personality Someone with an attractive personality:
1. Is warm and friendly towards others.
2. Is open and real
3. Knows their own strengths and weaknesses - and neither boasts nor puts themselves down.
4. Looks for the good in every situation, and is generally positive and optimistic.
5. Doesn’t gossip or pass on others’ secrets
6. Doesn’t gloat when things go wrong for others.
7. Is secure and has a healthy self–esteem; is not self-centred and narcissistic.
8. Is not highly critical or argumentative.
9. Is not possessive and jealous in relationships.
10. Makes time for the people they care about.
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Neurolove.me: Universal Characteristics Of An Ideal Partner We all have different types that we are attracted to and different things that we like in a partner, but there are certain characteristics that are universal and nearly everyone sees as important. Here are 10 characteristics of an ideal partner that almost everyone can agree on:
1. Respectful. Someone who values the importance of our lives, our choices, and our friends and family and treats us with respect is attractive to everyone.
2. Sense of Humor. Nearly everyone values this in a relationship, especially as life throws tough situations at us. Being able to laugh together is a way that we cope with stress and get through things together.
3. Appreciative. No matter who you are, you want to know that you are appreciated in your relationship. No one wants to be taken for granted and we all like when our partner is appreciative and lets us know how much they enjoy being with us.
4. Thoughtful. Having a partner that thinks of us and anticipates our needs is something that we all like. Someone who thinks of what we want and need and doesn’t just consider themselves is something we all look for in an ideal partner.
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Practices of Mindfulness
Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT):
• Created to treat Borderline Personality Disorder
• Meant to create a balance and synthesize opposing ideas
• Acceptance and change (learn to accept that things will not necessarily change)
• Contains several mindfulness exercises
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT):• Patients must learn to recognize an observing self (starts with acceptance)
• Thoughts and emotions are experienced without judgement
• Accept feelings rather than changing them; change behaviors instead
Mindfulness vs Cognitive Behavioral Therapy:• There is no evaluation of thoughts as irrational (in mindfulness)
• There are no specific goals oriented towards change (in mindfulness)
• The therapist generally must practice mindfulness as well before teaching (CBT therapists do not necessarily go through CBT therapy before teaching others -
Some Interesting Optimism Facts
- Optimists are more likely than pessimists to pay attention to NEGATIVE information, such as health
- Optimists are also more likely to elaborate and consider NEGATIVE information; they are more willing to look at the dark side
- Optimists remember more negative information, and are willing to process negative facts about themselves
- Optimists are willing to take more risks if the stakes are not very important, but if the stakes are important, less risks are taken
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Our Adaptation to Events in Life
For the majority of events in our life, the transition to our baseline happiness is very swift, however, there are some situations that have been shown to have long-term effects:
- Marriage = 2 years
- Widowhood = 8 years
- Longlasting Disability = 8 years
- Divorce = Long-term
- Unemployment = Long-term
